Happiness Is Not Asking For A Relationship

Happiness is a primary need in all of and we all desire to find and maintain it and avoid pain as much as possible! We all desire that same happiness in our relationships and we also derive it from other things in life. What things bring you happiness in life?

Some people find it from spending time with family and friends, trying out new places of interests, drinking in new cultures, developing their social or spiritual life or working out at the gym. Life is colourful and each of us can experience happiness in lots of different ways.

Being content and happy within is an important component to our mental health and well being but what happens when we depend on a relationship to make us happy? Or what happens when we hope to find someone who will make us happy?

For the lady waiting on Cupid to bring her happiness in a shape of a man, life can be a lonely existence. She won't attempt to pursue her dreams because she is waiting for Mr Right to turn up so she can start living. She may moan life is boring without a man and shun any opportunities of developing a full life right now.

For the person in a relationship, the dialogue will go something like this. 'If you buy things for me then I will be happy. If you change, then I can be happy. If you just be like someone else I will be happy. If you just be more kinder, smarter, short, taller....then I will be happy!'. If someone made you responsible for their happiness in life like this, what would your lives look like? How would that feel?

Rather than expecting your relationship to fix your unhappiness, start listing how you can begin this day to start building happiness into your life. What sort of things have you always wanted to do but have never done? Seeing the glass half empty? Look at what you have rather than what you don't have. What can you start doing instead of waiting for a man to walk into your life and do for you or with you? Living a full and content life means you make yourself a more desirable catch and interesting person. It means you bring happiness to your relationship and gives you the ability to make your partner happy and in return allow him to do the same for you. It is a true saying that people and things can't bring you joy until you first find happiness within.

 Written by Joanne Robinson. Copyright Donna Intera 2008